Oh how I love babywearing! I don't know how parents get by without it. Today's post is going to be filled with pics of me and my little Luke and talks of how/why babywearing has been such a blessing in my life.

I wore Luke for the first time when he was 4 days old. I had a simple cotton ring sling made by the wonderful Natalie Arsenault, and I wanted to keep my baby close to me at all times.  Plus, due to my horrible 3rd degree perineal tear, I needed to use both hands to help push myself up to get from sitting to standing at all times for the first few weeks. I didn't want to have to hand Luke off every time I wanted to get up. So, learning how to use my ring sling was essential.

I loved my two ring slings in those early months. A lot of people choose a stretchy-style wrap (like a Moby) for their first carrier. I looked into it but found wrapping a little too complicated for this overwhelmed first time mom. And I had a feeling I'd have a fairly big baby (around 9 lbs), and stretchies aren't recommended past 15lbs, so I knew it wouldn't last long and didn't want to waste any money. So the ring slings just seemed like a much better fit for me.

But, as Luke grew, and was more curious about the world around him, he became more squirmy -- and I became more unsure of my virgin-babywearing-self. So I invested in a Ergo.

The Ergo allowed me to do SO much. It gave me the confidence of knowing he was in there properly and wasn't going to fall out. I would literally wear Luke for hours every day. He was a "clingy" baby, or as I like to say, a very "attached" baby; he wanted to be held constantly, and wouldn't sleep without being held. So every naptime, dog walk, housecleaning day, I'd have him in the Ergo.

Oh and when Luke was teething he was even more clingy. I'd stick him in the Ergo and he'd be fine. Teething pads were essential though.

People often asked me how I lost the weight after having Luke --- it was a ton of walking. I'd walk with him for hours to keep him napping, and thanks to the Ergo I could.

I'm stereotyping, but for the most part, Dads prefer soft-structured carriers over slings and wraps. Maybe it's all the straps and buckles... more utilitarian looking. Mitch loves wearing Luke, and I like to call these pics Mommy porn :) Nothing sexier than seeing my hubby babywearing.

Typical Dad -- Liquor Store run with his son

And at their favourite spot -- Chapters :)

Soft-structured carriers are great for active, outdoorsy people. Mitch and I love to go out for walks in the woods, and love snow-shoeing in the winter. 

As my love of babywearing grew, I looked into woven wraps. I have a couple of wrap conversion ring-slings that have replaced my first two ring slings. They are SO supportive, and Luke loves them still... even at 27 months. Even my hubby prefers to take the woven wrap conversion ring slings to wear Luke for quick trips to the store. If I had to choose only one baby carrier a WCRS would be it.

This picture was from our trip to the zoo last year. I'm wearing my WCRS  with the rings on the back with a capped shoulder. Super comfy and easy. It was funny to see all of the other parents pushing empty strollers and carrying their kids so that they could actually see the animals. Meanwhile I was happily hands free and Luke could see everything no problem :)

In the two pics above I'm wearing my WCRS in a simple ruck with rings under the bum (RUB). This is a safe carry for experienced babywearers, but I wouldn't recommend it to newbies. Luke loves it like this though because, unlike the Ergo, he is so much higher on my back that he can see over my shoulder, straight ahead of him, rather than only to the side.

Luke in the WCRS at the mall one day. Rings on back. This pic is over a year old, but whenever we go to the mall he still prefers to be worn than to wander amongst the chaos.

I have fallen in love with full length woven wraps too, mainly because of how supportive they are. I, honestly, would rather put Luke in a wrap than in the Ergo for long periods of time. I can get him in the perfect, custom fit, spot on my back or belly, and never get back pain for hours... even now that he's over 30 lbs. Wrapping is a little tricky but there are some great YouTube videos out there to help. But with a little practice you can get it and when you do you'll see how amazing it can be!

This pic was taken after a 1.5 hour walk outside. Luke was happy and comfy and so was I thanks to my Didymos Jeans Viola Wrap made from 100% organic cotton.

You can't really tell in this picture but Luke had a major goose-egg bump on his forehead, right above his eye. He screamed and cried for what seemed like an eternity. I rocked him, I swayed with him, I did everything I could to try to calm him down. The magic trick that finally made him happy was being wrapped, comfort nursing, and holding onto his favourite toy -- his bow and arrow. Wrapping makes him feel so safe... like he's in a constant hug :)

Wrapping also  solves the problem of a stubborn toddler, who doesn't want to put his snowsuit on, and momma doesn't have the energy to fight him because of first trimester exhaustion and morning sickness,  but they have to go outside to take the dog for a walk so he can do his "business". I wrapped him up, then put my coat on backwards so it kept him warm.  I won that battle :)

Babywearing has been such an eye-opening experience for me. It just "feels right", and has right from the start. Sure I did what most first time moms do, and go out and buy an expensive, top-of-the line, stroller. And I used it on rainy or stormy days when Luke was just a baby and our dog Jack needed to go for a walk. But I honestly can say that I might have used the stroller 1 in ever 20 times I went out for a walk, and only ever used the stroller out shopping once! Here's a fun little challenge for you: next time you're out at the mall on a busy Saturday, look around and see how many parents are pushing an empty stroller (it may be filled with shopping bags), while holding a cranky baby in the other arm. 

I would be remiss if I wrote this post about babywearing and didn't write about safety. Babywearing is wonderful, but make sure you know what you are doing --- don't go out and buy "crotch danglers" like Baby Bjorns as they're bad for your baby's hips and alignment.... and often are uncomfortable for you too. Make sure, that no matter what carrier you use, that your baby's lower half looks like a big letter M... feet low, knees high, bum low .... knees should always be higher than their bum. Please don't ever do a forward facing carry until your baby is over 12 months --- overstimulation is a huge issue! Babies under a year need to face momma, and be able to hide their head away from the chaos that surrounds them from time to time. And always remember the TICKS of babywearing:

So there you have it, a longwinded post about how I use babywearing to save my sanity :) I would love to hear from you on your thoughts and experiences too, so please comment or contact me. Thanks for reading!

As I get ready to welcome a second child into our lives I've been spending some time thinking about what parenting decisions that I am really proud to have made the first time around. Looking back, there are definitely many things I would change, but one thing that I am so proud of is the choice to keep limited, and simple toys in Luke's world. There's a saying that goes, "The more the toy does, the less the child has to do." And, as many of us  know, play is a child's work; so, I want my kids to work hard, not just sit back and let the toys do the work for them. And so, I figure I might as well share some of my favourite toys that I recommend any/all parents to get for their children here on the blog. Today's post is all about playsilks.

We got Luke his playsilks for his first Christmas. He was 8 and 1/2 months old and loved playing peek-a-boo so I thought this would be the prefect present for him. He LOVED them. They were soft, vibrant, and so light. They were perfect for him to learn how to cover himself up and hide, and light enough for him to pull off to reveal himself to us again. Countless hours were spent playing with the silks in the months following Christmas.

Whenever I have babies over for My Smart Hands, baby signing, classes, I always haul out the basket of playsilks and they are always a big hit with the new kiddos. Parents are always asking me where I got them, and commenting on what a great idea it is. 

We have used our playsilks in tons of different ways. For Luke's first birthday we hung them from our ceiling like "streamers" and Luke was in awe! He kept pointing and saying "oooo". Honestly, he didn't care about his other presents because he was so busy staring up at the ceiling. We also used a few to decorate/present the shelf where we displayed all of his presents.  I've seen other parents use playsilks to wrap presents rather than buy wrapping paper --- save the environment, stimulate the senses, use playsilks.

As Luke's grown he's really enjoyed "wearing" the silks. There is rarely a day that passes without the silks being used as some sort of cape  or headgear. With a husband who loves comic books, Luke definitely has been exposed to the world of superheroes from an early age, and he always pretends he's Superman with the read cape one, Batman with the blue, etc. 

Mitch has introduced Luke to the world of knights and archers, and so a good sword fight is not complete without the power that comes from the playsilk cloaks :) Luke is only 27 months old, but as his imagination grows the silks will only continue to be used in new and vibrant ways, I'm sure!

I have three wonderful nieces (ages, 5, 5 and 7) and they always are excited to pull out the basket of silks whenever they are over to visit too. Common themes for them are pretending they are princesses and dancers with gorgeous dresses, or Rapunzel  with flowing long hair, and lots of pirate play too!

Anyway, I love playsilks! There are tons of different places to get them. Many people sell them on Etsy, or you can make your own. Silk is quite expensive, and you don't necessarily need to get "fancy" ones... head out to Value Village or other thrift stores and look for old silk scarves. Personally, I love Sarah's Silks. Yes they are pricey, but the quality is amazing. I ended up purchasing a couple bags of "seconds"-- these are cheaper than the regular ones because they are said to have some sort of sewing or dying error. I never noticed a thing wrong with any of the ones that I received, and plan to order more this way for the next baby.

Playsilks.... used in Waldorf Schools and Childcare facilities world wide. Let your child's imagination soar, by providing quality, simple toys, that allow your child to do the work :) 

Gardening with a Toddler

As a suburban family, trying to live a naturalistic life, planting an annual garden has become a necessity in order to save a little money to eat organic foods. Last year's garden saved us over $500 in organic kale alone! But now that my little Luke is a rambunctious, busy little boy, I have found the task of planting our garden a little more difficult than in years past. Here are the three biggest tips/tricks that I have for anyone who wants to plant a backyard garden while taking care of a 2 year old :)

Firstly, distraction with some natural, imaginative, toys. My little Luke loves to be physical.... he loves to run and jump and tumble and play. But having a few pieces of "equipment" has been a huge help in keeping him occupied for a good 20-30 minutes at a time. We have a handful of different sized tree stumps set up in the back yard. Not a day goes by that Luke doesn't come up with a new way to use them. This year he was doing "Spiderman Jumps" while I planted some of the garden. And, I find it interesting that the next door neighbours, who have a big playset (play house, swings, slide, etc), enjoy coming to our house to play on the stumps too. So, these free-to-us stumps were essential to the success of the garden.

Secondly, build up! This year we lucked out and got the "leftover" cedar log siding from my parents' newly built log home. With these pieces of wood, my husband and his brother built raised beds for us. We don't have enough good earth and compost to completely fill them yet, but every year we'll add to them to eventually fill it up. Anyway, having the raised beds has helped to keep little feet out of the soil of newly-planted seeds and seedlings. The simple barriers/boundaries of the beds have given Luke a way to stop, think, and realize that he shouldn't be in them.

And lastly, make sure you leave some space for your toddler to play in the dirt. This year we gave Luke his own small raised bed, and we call it "Luke's Garden". He can do whatever he wants with this space. He can dig, rake, hoe, etc. We gave him his own seeds to plant .... leftover pumpkin seeds, and beans - big seeds that were easy for him to hold, and see. I doubt anything will actually grow in there as he drowns it when he waters his "baby sprouts", and he stands and stomps and jumps in it on a daily basis. But having his own space to do whatever he wants in, I find, is essential. It makes him feel just like Mommy and Daddy, and it's great sensory play on a daily basis :) 

So there you have it. My top three tricks for finding the time to grow your own food while still looking after your toddler. I highly encourage you to get out there and plant a small garden. It's so rewarding and so educational for your little ones. Plus, it's easy cash in your pocket :) 

Mommy Guilt

Disclaimer--- originally written a few months ago but never managed to publish until now. Better late than never right?!

Uuuuggghh! My intentions of being more active on this blog he been stunted by constant nausea. What a rough few weeks it has been! The constant head-in-toilet action around here has put a damper on my "joy" of being a mom.

More than anything lately I struggle wit the dreaded "g-word"...... Guilt. I feel guilty for not being my usual upbeat, energetic, fun, stimulating mom to Luke. I once prided myself on the fact that my son never watched any TV other than on long car rides. Now he is watching an hour + every day because it's the only thing to keep him entertained while I have  regular dates with the porcelain throne. as an educator I know just how critical these months are in Luke's developmental growth and yet I can't bring myself to given him what I know he deserves.

I feel guilty that I can't nurse him as often and as long as I used to. My milk supply has dropped significantly and the pain I feel after about 10 minutes is too much to bear. It's been hard to Luke to adjust to not nursing to sleep every night. He'll say, "Mommmy mo (more)?" and my response is "Mommy needs to make more, you drank it all up." Which is always followed by a big ol cry from him. He even said last night "Put baaaa (back)". He wanted to put he milk he drank back so he could nurse more. poor lil guy.

I feel guilty for not being as excited for this new little sprout growing in me as I was with Luke. Of course I am excited but it's just been really hard to be thrilled that my constant morning sickness is here interrupting my supermom-ness with Luke. 

I feel guilty that I haven't been able to eat as well during the first trimester with this new one as I was when pregnant with Luke. I've been living on carbs, eggs and bananas as compared to the tons of veggies and fruit I ate during my first pregnancy.

(Side note: I had my first prenatal doctor's appointment last week! I really was excited for it and to hear the little heartbeat that's hiding inside of my belly. Two days later I had a "dating ultrasound". It turns out that I am only 12 weeks tomorrow so new due date is September 20th. Oh and yes I am completely IN LOVE with my new baby. It's so hard to explain how it feels! Here is a pic of my newest love.)

(OK, back to guilt...)

I feel guilty as a wife. I haven't been able to hold up my end of our daily chores. Laundry is forever piling up, and when I do manage to get it done it never manages to find it's way into their drawers, shelves as hangers. Meals have been mediocre. Cleaning is just not in the cards. Oh and intimacy with Mitch is impossible without the threat of puking all over him. My incredibly amazing, supportive husband is wonderful and has picked up my slack without any complaints, yet I still feel guilty. Here is the note I came downstairs to yesterday:

I am an awful pet owner lately. The smell of Jack (our gorgeous flat coated retriever) is enough to make me hurl. And my kitty Holly just wants to cuddle and I can't stand being touched. So yet again I feel guilty.

I know it's hormones that are fuelling these feelings but man it's not fun to deal with. I can't wait for Spring... Hope of a new season, new trimester, new life. A resurgence of all things Laura is definitely in order!

Pregnancy Update.... Finally!

Oh my goodness, once again blog updates got put on the back burner once morning sickness reared its ugly head :( Second pregnancy, second time rocked by the ol' all day nausea beast. I found it even worse this time around though because I was so much more tired chasing a toddler around all day, nursing him 3 and 4 times a night, than I was working a desk job like I did when I was pregnant with Luke.  But I'm not going to dwell on the past, and just get on with the update.

I am currently 26 weeks-ish pregnant with our second baby BOY. We couldn't be more thrilled to have another little man joining our family in mid-late September. We have a name picked out and settled on but we are keeping it a secret until he is born. Stay tuned.... Only 14ish weeks to go.

I can definitely say I am super excited to be pregnant and have a little life growing inside of me but it's so different this time around. I am so busy with Luke that I don't really have the time to even notice if baby #2 is alive and kicking until naptime and bedtime.  We haven't started to plan the nursery yet, we haven't really done much at all for this kiddo. Second child syndrome at its best. 

Physically, however I'm noticing a lot of differences this time around. I started showing so much earlier... had to haul out the pregnancy pants at 14 weeks this time. I have been getting a lot of pain/pressure on my pelvic bone over the last few weeks-- pelvic girdle pain. No fun! This little dude is sitting really low in my pelvis which isn't helping I'm sure. I haven't been exercising nearly as much this time and need to really make that a focus and priority now that I'm in the "feel good" trimester. Yoga, walking, and biking will be my staples shortly. Oh and I get lots of stabbing pains in and around my abdomen.... Round ligament pain is way worse this pregnancy. And lastly, the most frustrating and embarrassing physical issue is urinary incontinence. Panty liners are a must! Between sneezing, picking up my 30lb toddler, and having a growing baby sitting on my bladder I don't have a hope in heck to stay dry. Kegels haven't helped at all. I have a referral to see a physiotherapist who specializes is pelvic floor issues and I have a feeling she is going to be my new best friend over the next year or so.

Oh and the biggest and most exciting news is we have decided to have this little sprout at home. I always have felt like hospitals are for sick people and pregnancy isn't a sickness. Having a home birth feels so right and aligns itself so well with who I am. I will end there and will do a seperate post on our plan to birth baby #2 at home.

Momma's Essentials

Most of you can probably guess that I try to be as "natural", "organic", and "clean" as possible in every aspect of my life, but no where has this been more important to me than in my role as Momma. I have been using Young Living Essential Oils now for over 3 years. It all started when I was pregnant with Luke and I had a bad head cold. A friend introduced me diffusing Eucaylptus Radiata and I was infantry hooked! Something pure and natural that actually worked?!

Ever since them I've used YLEOs for everything from bug bites, to headaches, to cleaning the bathroom, to treating teething pain for my son. The list can truly go on and on.

So, finally I've decided to become an independent distributor for Young Living. I am goin to share my experiences and thought and uses of YLEOs here and over on my facebook page www.facebook.com/mommasessentials . So head on over and Like and Share my page please and thank you :)